Ways to save struggling relationship

It is not new that couples will argue all the time, could be serious issues or not so serious issues. The fact is it is a natural thing for both short term and long term relationships. There will always be disagreements based on difference in opinions, lifestyle, upbringing and so on, but there are times when it reaches a point where everything is starting to fall apart. This often leads to devastating breakups – but it doesn’t always have to end that way.

It may be easier said than done but it’s always important to have a little faith and ask these questions: Have you really done enough to save the relationship? Have you exhausted every possible option to say that it’s over? Is it really over? Is it possible to still push a little bit more? Is my partner even worth it? as in really?

So how can you save a failing and struggling relationship? Note that there are times you may feel “I just don’t love him/her anymore,” especially when life’s struggles begin to overwhelm you. Here are the tips to save your struggling relationship and keep the love alive. It may not apply to everyone. You may already be doing some of these things. But there is no harm in doing a little bit more with some kindness.

1. Admit that mistakes have been made

This is probably the hardest, yet the most important part of saving a relationship. Admitting that one or even both of you have failed to do your part is not easy. In moments like this one, people tend to become stubborn and quickly activate their defence mechanism in order to avoid getting all the blame. Try to work together and start from there.

2. Learn to negotiate and reach a compromise

Most of the reasons why people breakup can actually be remedied and solved through negotiation. Sure, this is not a business relationship but romantic relationships follow the same structure of what makes any good partnership last – regular communication and openness to compromise. Talk about what needs to be done, what you can do to accomplish them, and what you should stop doing.

3. Establish an “honesty zone” and talk about what’s bothering you

Again, communication is important. But honest communication is more important and can dramatically mend an almost-breaking bond between two people. Being honest with each other and letting them know how you truly feel can be liberating and at the same time, it will let you both know what went wrong and what you can do to fix it.

4. Remind yourself of the things that made you love your partner

Memories can bring the past back to life – and it can help you remember the things and emotions that seem to fade over time. Most of the time, couples become too busy and preoccupied with other things in life and forget the ones that matter. Remembering helps us realize that there was once a time when you were so happy and in love with that person – and the good thing is, you can bring that day back again.

5. Spend a quiet and relaxing time together

Sometimes, you only need to stay away from the noise of daily life and just be together in a quiet place. The chaos of the big city might be making your head spin, or the stress of your job could make you feel that everything is wrong in your life. Relax, reboot, and do it with the person you love.

6. Take a break from the daily routines of your relationship

What if you just need a break from everything? It’s a waste to end something so beautiful just because you were angry or tired from the routines of daily life. However, there are times when the demands of the relationship itself makes you feel exhausted. It’s normal but it doesn’t mean that it will be like that forever.

7. Don’t try to change people according to what you think is best

You don’t decide what your partner should be or how they should act. All you can do is to guide them so that they won’t do things that could hurt themselves. It’s one of the most ruining part of every relationship when one person tries to control the other and aside from breaking their confidence apart, you are actually teaching your significant other to be ashamed and hate their true self. It’s unfair, don’t you think?

8. Respect your differences

In relation to the section above, you have to respect your differences because you are two different people. No matter how perfectly matched you are in the zodiac sign department or if you think you’re soulmates, there will always be differences because you both have gone through a lot of things as well and experiences that shaped each of you as a person.

9. Stop hurting each other

Arguments are normal and we sometimes say and do things that could hurt the other. Sometimes, when couples fight, they do and say hurtful things just to let it all out. Words can be wounding and sometimes it can cause permanent emotional trauma. If you think you cannot control your emotions during an argument, it’s not a good idea to talk. Find a way to release the negativity that you feel but not towards your partner.

10. Don’t let them feel that you’ve given up

Have a little faith in every piece of what makes your relationship whole. Don’t give up on what you have too easily and learn to fight for it no matter how hurt or heartbroken you are. It’s okay to admit that you feel hopeless but never say that it’s over until it is really over. If your significant other feels that you’re not doing your part to fix it, then it could lead to a final and ultimate goodbye

11. Ask the questions that you’ve never asked before.

When your relationship is at stake, learn to ask the right and most important questions. What should you do to fix it? What went wrong? Whatever happened to your promises of loving each other no matter what? What else can you do to save what you have?

12. Open your heart and forgive more

This can be the hardest thing to do. Forgiving the person who have hurt you, the very person who promised to take care of you and to make you the happiest soul alive, can be the greatest sacrifice that you’ll ever offer to someone. However, this does not mean that you have to embrace martyrdom, to forget and forgive. It’s important to know your limits and your worth. Ask yourself these questions: is this person worth my forgiveness? Is this worth another chance?

Relationship problems all couples experience

IT pretty much goes without saying that no one really wants to fight with their partner, but the reality is that arguing from time to time in a relationship is inevitable.

Even if you love your partner and are content overall in your relationship, there are some common relationship problems that all couples face.

However, not only is it ok for you and your partner to fight, it’s actually essential for your growth as a couple-as long as you’re arguing in a productive way, that is. But what exactly does it mean to have a productive fight in a relationship?

The  bottomline? So long as you’re able to communicate in a mature, effective way, any issues that arise during the course of your relationship will be no biggie.

Of course, there’s no way to predict exactly what issues might pop up — but if you want a general idea, here are nine relationship problems that are universal to pretty much all couples that you can be on the lookout for in your own relationship.

1. Going through a dry spell

There are so many reasons a dry spell can happen — mismatched libidos, health problems, general stress, a lack of free time — that it’s almost inevitable for a long-term couple not to go through at least one. But it’s not the end of the world, and it’s also totally possible to get out of a sex rut.

2. Feeling bored in relationship

When you’re dating the same person for a long period of time, of course things might start to feel a little stale eventually. If you feel bored in your relationship, work together to find ways you can add some fun, spontaneity, and excitement back into the day-to-day.

3. Dealing with feelings of jealousy

Some people are certainly more jealous in relationships than others, but we’re all human and have the capacity to feel insecure — and, as a result, almost every couple will experience bouts of jealousy from time to time.

“It’s natural to get jealous when you’re in a relationship,” Bennett says. “All couples go through it to a degree. The key to overcome it is to communicate and build trust so that you can rationally work through what can ultimately be irrational feelings.”

4. Not fully listening to one another

To make a relationship last, having good communication skills is so important. One of the biggest no-nos? Not being an active and thoughtful listener in your relationship.

5. Fighting about chores

It might not be fun, but doing chores and errands is essential to making a household run smoothly — after all, someone has to take out the garbage. Particularly if you live with a partner whose definition of ‘clean’ is different than yours, fighting about the division of chores in your relationship is super normal.

6. Experiencing doubts in relationship

One of the things no one tells you about long-term relationships? Even if you’re happy, it’s normal to have doubts about your partner occasionally — as long as you’re able to communicate about them, that is.

“Doubts in a relationship are normal. It’s human nature to question things in life. If you’re happy in a relationship, try not to dwell on the doubts. Instead, focus on the positive aspects of your relationship that make you feel that you are right for each other.”

7. Getting too busy and spending less time together

When you’re in a serious relationship, it’s typical to make each other a top priority. But everyone has their own individual commitments, too — and sometimes life gets in the way, and we spend less time with our partners than we once did.

“This can be frustrating and cause resentment in a relationship, even though it’s nobody’s fault,” “Sometimes it’s worthwhile for couples to cut back on work or other commitments to devote more time to their relationship.”

8. Disagreeing about money

Unfortunately, money makes the world go ‘round, which means that arguing about money with your partner is pretty much inevitable, especially if you have or plan to combine your finances.

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My Relationship & Marriage Group has been on fire since yesterday, where contentious questions about Relationship and Marriage were argued upon, Once Mr Darlington Ibim stated somethings that a genuine christian must do; he further says that as a genuine christian, you are meant to do church marriage, thou it may be silent one, but its a must to observed, he stated and i quote '' But you don't allow your marriage to be conducted by traditionalist who will invoke evil spirits to bless that marriage and expect the blessing of God.The foundation of a marriage determines its source of blessing.The devil and his priest can't bless your marriage''.

while one Gloria Olarenwaju says and as i quote '' We are not saying church is not important ooo, but i can do traditional wedding and my marriage will be blessed by God to the call...My Submission''.
she further says and i quote '' Let stop claiming Holier than Jesus, without Church wedding means you are not true christian, thats not true''.

while one Esther Ajuma Omale put in her own contributions; One bitter truth, Born again or not, once you traditionally/customary married, your marriage is ordained by the Almighty God, who is he originator of marriage. Even without a church wedding. Some unbelievers enjoy their marriage more than some so called believers. and she says; The denomination you attend is your WATCH WORD and not the Bible? Ephesians 3:31-32 '' A man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.''32 This is a great mystery, but it is an illustration of the way Christ and the Church are one.

Mr Darlington further states that you can end with traditional marriage if your church accepts that. But even in such a situation, the church takes total charge of the marriage from start to finish and the couple and their families abide by the dictates of the church. i have seen such a situation. In that case, it is still the church representing Jesus Christ that has done the marriage.
Mrs Owoo Olufunke put some clarifications by saying; The Church is the building and various people attend both saved and unbeliever but salvation is personal. And if one is saved and redeemed, definitely the relationship of the person with God is the majority, when Isaac wanted to marry Rebecca, the eldest servant of Abraham who was sent for this assignment said in Genesis 24 vs 12 to 14 '' O Lord God of my master Abraham, I pray thee....... So i believe in cordial relationship with God. you may even be told by God to do it in low key, hat doesnt mean your pastors will not attend in as much they are spirit filled but if not, just make sure you are through with yur maker and you will not regret.

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24 PHONE USE RULES FOR COUPLES:

Pst Mike Taiwo expose the 24 rules of phone use for couples

1. Don't make a habit of putting your phone on silent mode or turning it off each time you're with your partner. It makes you look like you are hiding something
2. Save your partner's phone number using a special title like "Hubby", "Love", "Wife", "Sweerie". Or save using a title plus the official name. Using the official name only makes your partner look like just the other contacts on your phone
3. Answer your partner's phone call with loving affectionate words like "Hi love", "Hey honey". How a conversation starts detetmines how it flows. If you start warm, you two will enjoy talking with each other on phone
4. End the talk on a high. Say "I love you", say a joke, a compliment, a warm phrase before you hang up. Hang up with a smile
5. It is OK to chat with friends online. But never chat with another person more than you chat with your partner
6. If you will be busy, notify your partner you will not be able to pick up calls or reply texts promptly. Inform your partner what you will be doing and approximately for how long. This prepares your partner and brings peace because your partner will not feel ignored
7. Flirting on phone is good but only flirt with your partner
8. Tell off people who try to flirt with you, entice you and charm you on phone. Let them know that you are taken
9. Take lots of photos and videos together to capture moments. You will need those pics and videos in future as you look back
10. When you go out on dates, keep the phone away, minimize phone use so that you focus on each other
11. Don't make a habit of walking away from your partner to answer phone calls. Your partner will perceive you are hiding something or having an affair. Love is about perception
12. After the date and you don't live together; man, call her up and check on her, tell her you got home safe; lady, send him a text, thanking him for a wonderful time
13. Unless it's an emergency, when you can't reach your partner and you probably know he/she is at work or doing something; don't keep calling and texting desperately. You will only look like a nag to your partner and that will make your partner detest phone contact with you. Relax, your partner will see your missed call and text
14. When you see a missed call or text from your partner, please call back or reply as soon as you can. Put your partner at ease
15. Save your partner's phone number as an emergency number to be contacted incase something happens to you and your phone is locked
16. Avoid fights and arguments over the phone, they are difficult to manage and leave a bad feeling when you hang up, thus negatively affecting how you two relate. Talk about serious issues that are volatile face to face
17. When your partner offends you or you two aggrevate each other, never refuse to pick up your partner's phone call. That only makes matters worse. Keep the line of communication open so that you work things out. If you can't talk at the moment you are hurting, just pick up the call and say "I can't talk right now" and your partner will understand
18. Inform your partner when and why you need to turn off your phone when you two are apart. Keep your partner from worrying
19. When you two are having fun together, it is good to celebrate your love online but don't post too much about your lovelife. Some things are best kept private. The world doesn't have to know every detail of how you love each other
20. When you two are having problems, don't vent about your partner directly or indirectly on your social media posts
21. Don't let your partner get news about you from social media like your online friends. Tell the news to your partner first, and then post online
22. If your partner tries calling you but your line is engaged, explain who you were talking to. If someones calls you when you're with your partner, say who it was. Transparency and clarity enhances trust
23. Remember it is both your role to communicate. None of you should feel he/she is forcing a conversation or is doing much of the talking. Communication takes two
24. Put away the phone when your partner needs your undivided attention, especially in the bedroom. Don't be intimate, holding your phone, more than you hold your partner
Phone use can affect your relationship/
marriage negatively or positively. Be smart as you use your smart phone

SEXUAL SECRETS OF WOMEN THAT WANT TO SNATCH YOUR HUSBAND

Pst Mike Taiwo a relationship activiist and a blogger exposes some secrets of women that snatches husband.

Lots of women are losing their husbands to strange women out there and most women are yet to know what these men really see in these women that make them to get glued to them despite the facts that they know that these women are more expensive and most are full of sexual transmitted diseases.
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Hi wives, you need to know the sexual secrets of these faceless women, sorry they are better than you in the bed, you need to step up to match up with them and beat them in their dirty games. Take your time to read this and get your husband back, these are their secrets:
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1) THEY UNDERSTAND THE SEXUAL WEAKNESS OF MEN:
They understand that one of the weaknesses of most men is sex and they make good use of this. Wives are careless about this, instead of using sex to create intimacy with their husbands; they use it to create animosity, anger, bitterness between them and their husbands.
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WHAT TO DO:
Use sex as a tool of love to create intimacy in your marriage, don’t use sex to destroy your marriage, use it to build it.
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2) THEY KISS LIKE MAD:
In a report, most married men reported that their wives hate kissing; they said it is difficult to get a decent kiss from their wives. Strange women are experts in this area, they use kissing as a weapon.
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WHAT TO DO:
Don’t turn kissing to wresting in your marriage, stop been local. Kiss your husband even when he is not expecting it.
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3) THEY USE KILLER UNDERWEAR:
A man said he hates to see his wife in panties because according to him, she always looks like a wrestler. Lots of wives are like this, they are fond of wearing pants whose colors are different from their bras, looking like a rainbow, with dirty pants, outdated underwear, bra that looks like tarpaulin, wearing of boxers that is meant for men, wearing of knickers and tying of wrapper to bed. Strange women are creative in this regard they are fond of using neat, sexy panties and bra. They always balance colors under there.
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WHAT TO DO:
Wives wake up, fashion starts form under, not from head gear or rope sieve bag, the real fashion is looking sexy when you undress before your husband.
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4) THEY USE KILLER NIGHTIE:
Strange women not only wear sexy underwear, they also wear killer nighties. While wives dress to bed and look like a soldier in bed, strange women dress to capture the man even before getting to bed.
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WHAT TO DO:
When you are going out, dress up and when you are going to bed, dress down. Dress to capture the imagination of your husband, get very sexy, nasty nightie for your husband’s eyes only. Men are moved by what they see, let your husband she the angel in you.
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5) THEY SEE SEX AS A SERIOUS BUSINESS:
You see it as a chore, you see it as dirty, you even wish it is removed from marriage, it never cross your mind. But for these strange ladies, they see sex as a serious business and do everything to keep their clients and customers. They use all marketing strategies, branding, product, packaging, marketing and advertisement.
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WHAT TO DO:
Begin to see sex as a serious business, rebrand yourself, repackage yourself because you are the real product.
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6) THEY TREAT SEX AS FOOD OF MEN:
Wives are fond of saying “Is it food?” What a foolish statement! It’s not food, it’s more than that, in fact the Bible says it is water (Proverbs 5:15-19). Strange women are aware of the fact that men see sex as food and they serve it hot and better.
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WHAT TO DO:
Get into the fray, treat it as the food of your husband. Serve it better than before, never say, “is it food?” again in your life, it is more than that.
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7) SEX IS IN THEIR MIND: Babies, house cleaning, cooking, and washing are in the mind of wives; sex is never in their minds, they never think of it, but away women put it in their mind and their body is ready, no wonder they hardly look tired for it.
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WHAT TO DO:
At least two or three time a week, put sex in your to-do list, put it in your mind and see how your marriage turns to be.
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8) THEY PLAN FOR SEX: Strange women plan for sex the way you plan for your cooking; they look forward to it and carry their catch along in their plans.
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WHAT TO DO:
Plan for sex in your marriage; don’t make it your husband’s affairs to plan for sex in your marriage. Let it be part of your schedule.
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9) THEY SET TABLE FOR SEX: Strange women do set table for great sex, soft music, blue light, candle light, perfumed bed, velvet bed sheet, sexy outlook, slippery fingers. Do you still wonder why men are running to them?
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WHAT TO DO:
Begin to set table for sex in your marriage, be creative, surprise your husband with sexy outlook when he arrives from work. Children are already in bed, you look “Smatching”, the whole house look romantic, soft music, dinner with candle light, Hug by the door and kiss on the lips. Who says your husband will not rush home tomorrow.
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10) THEY ARE VERY ROMANTIC:
Romance is a strange thing to some women, the away women don’t joke about it, they are experts in this. Whole lots of wives are romantically bankrupt but strange women are professional in it. Men loves romantic women and strange women know this.
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WHAT TO DO:
Become romantic, marriage is a love affair, don’t allow motherhood and wifehood destroy your girlish instinct. Be romantic.
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11) THEY FLIRT WITH THEIR MEN:
Strange women are not only romantic, they are flirty. They give “come and do” eye contact, if you sit with them on a table they make sure their legs touch yours, they put hands on men’s shoulders and touch men’s legs as they discuss. They greet men with a good smile, they laugh excessively to men’s dry jokes. All these signal immoral men understand perfectly and they quickly go for them.
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WORK TO DO:
Get flirty with your husband, hold his hands in the public, place your head on him when in a bus, touch his legs as you talk, sit close to him and sure make your body touches his own, hold him longer when hugging, he is your husband girl, get flirty with him.
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12) THE ARE SEDUCTIVE:
Strange women are not only romantic, they are flirty, they are not only flirty, they are seductive. They dress seductively, expose their cleavages, show their panties, wear very tight cloths that shows their pant lines and curves, open their laps for careless men to see what is there. This is what your husband face daily, though he may not get home to tell you what girls in the office are doing to him, you need to know this and get it right at home, with right and what I call holy seduction. This I mean you counter them by seducing your husband regularly, this may keep him to you.
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WORK TO DO:
Get seductive with your husband; stop pretending that you hate sex. Work round the house half naked when you are alone with him, bath with bathroom door open when alone with him, go ahead win your husband spirit soul and body.
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13) THEY MAKE GREAT USE OF PERFUME:
Strange women use expensive perfumes, they smell nice to attract men.
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WORK TO DO: Make sure you smell nice too, men’s sense of smell is very good, take advantage of this, capture your husband.
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14) THEY MAKE MEN FEEL WANTED:
Strange women do make men feel wanted, honored and welcome by their attitude, cooperation and involvement in the bedroom. The opposite is the case with wives; they make men look foolish for asking for sex, they make their husbands fight or struggle for it, what a mistake!
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WHAT TO DO:
Treat your husband with honor, let him feel wanted, accepted and loved. If he touches you, encourage him and touch him too.
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15) THEY USE THEIR BREASTS TO THE MAXIMUM:
Most wives are fond of fighting their husbands for touching their breast, but strange women will never do that, they make good use of this to capture men, they know that most men can be captured by women’s breast, so they dress to show cleavage, half of their breast, they wear clothing that shows their nipples, they go for breast enhancement, they go out bra less, you see the women that are after your husband are very desperate, you can’t afford to be careless.
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WHAT TO DO:
Don’t ever fight your husband again for touching your breast, it is not for the baby, the baby is a tenant, it’s for the Daddy, it is not for decoration, make use of it to keep your husband.
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16) THEY COOK GREAT MEALS:
Strange women also know how to cook great meal for men before sleeping with them. They know that men love food and if a man loves your food, he is likely going to like your body.
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WHAT TO DO:
Never commit your husband meals in to the hands of your maids; you will likely regret this later. Be a great cook if you don’t want to cook your marriage.

"PAY THE BILL"

If you're happily married or in a relationship with a good and responsible man who is constantly trying his best to bring smile to your face and make you happy.
Kindly take him out on a date this weekend and let him eat and drink anything he wants and then "PAY THE BILL". If he asks you why you're doing it. Tell him it's your little way of saying thank you to a wonderful man.
Before complaining about things he's doing wrong. Kindly take a moment to acknowledge and appreciate the little things he's doing right. One of the secrets to getting a man do more is to always show appreciation for the little he's doing..

LADIES: Let me address you today.

 Pst Mike Taiwo advice ladies
There are these men who come into your life, they show you love, make you believe they are destined to be with you forever but after a time they leave you and marry another woman.
Fine, you get hurt, try to move on but just as you are about to move on completely they come back claiming how they loved you, how they wish they married you, telling you they miss you, love you more than their wife but cannot leave their wife because of a child or marriage.
Sooner or later, you become sexually active once more and you remain stuck.
Let me tell you ladies, such men are just taking advantage of you and your gullibility. These are selfish men who do not want you to make any social progress, they do not want you to get into another meaningful relationship. With such men, you will not be able to love another man.
But guess what? You are wasting your time with him. He has a family already, a wife and a marriage but you? You have nothing.
LEAVE such men. It does not matter if he comes pleading while crawling, begging for your love once more, apologizing even the sins of lucifer to win you back….if he already got married, let him go.
You are worth more than a selfish man. You too well know the man isn’t taking you anywhere so why would you wish such for yourself?

It is easier to get sex than to get love

Pst Mike Taiwo advice ladies
But some ladies think once you give out sex you get love which is the genesis of most heart breaks. If a man approached you in the name of he wanted sex and you gave it to him, you have no reason to feel bad if you find him with another woman willing to give it to him. Some women think once the man tastes their honey pot he is bound there but that never happens. Sex to most men is physical, while to women it is emotional which never ends well with most women. Worse, if the woman gets pregnant and there was no clear way out, the man will bolt and go away as fast as he came.
Watch out ladies. Blame games will never solve a thing, but commonsense will solve so much problems.

Identifying Yellow Cards(Warning) In A Relationship

Relationship doesn’t just break in a day. Before a break up finally occurs, there are signs that will point to its destination. Most of these yellow card signs are glaring but many find it difficult to recognize them, until they turn red card. When a break up is staring at their faces, there are warning signals which if you take notice of; will save you from volcanic shock that characterize unexpected break up. These signs are:
1. Reduction in calls:
When someone who calls you often, sends text messages expressing his or her love now forgets to call, reduces the call to once a week or once a month. And when you complain, “Sorry I forgot” is the answer you get, it is a sign that you are losing your place in his or her heart.
2. Busyness:
When he or she has engaged in things that take priority over you. He or she doesn’t have time for you, no time to discuss, pray, study the Bible, no time to visit and no time to go out together. It is a sign that your relationship is going down the drain. He that doesn’t have time for you in courtship will not be available for you in marriage. Anyone that loves you will squeeze out time for you.
3. Outburst of Anger:
Relationship is a love affair and not a battle-field. So, when petty issues that could be laughed over always lead to fights and display of anger or it has gotten to the point where almost everything you say will cause your partner to flare-up, it is a pointer to the fact they you are no longer accepted.
4. No Longer Passionate about the Relationship:
Though you are still together but the love is getting cold, he or she is no longer investing time and resources in the relationship; you are no longer eager to speak to each other; then you should realize that break-up is looming in the relationship.
5. Ambiguous Introduction:
When you notice that of late, he or she now introduces you to people as a mere friend, it is a statement of lack of commitment. This is telling you that you are no more than an ordinary friend to him or her. With this, it is better to start making up your mind for the unexpected and then call his/her attention to it before you conclude.
6. Criticism:
If you notice that as far as your partner is concerned, you don’t know how to do anything. He/she complains about everything in you. He/she criticizes your views, opinions, dressing, stature, etc. The truth is that he that criticizes normally reduces to little size. Constant criticisms often make lovebirds become sworn-enemies. Anyone who is not appreciating your effort is having your love depreciated in his/her heart.
7. Compare you with his/her Ex-lover:
To have a flourishing relationship, you must shut the door to your ex-lover in order to accommodate your newfound lover in your heart. But in a situation where your partner compares your dressing, attitude, spending habit and talking with that of his/her ex-lover, then you are not safe if at every of your discussion, he keeps mentioning the name of his/her ex, don’t rejoice yet, you are not in a promising relationship.
8. One sided giving:
In a relationship, giving must be mutual and not one sided. Beware of a courtship where you are the one doing all the giving while your partner is just at the receiving end. This kind of relationship is not a balanced one. You will notice that when you can no longer give as you used to due to financial lack; he/she will have problem relating with you because that relationship is based on money.
9. Avoidance:
This point is often glaring enough for all to know. For somebody who once cherished your presence to now avoid your company, prefer to hang out with friends, or give you an excuse of what he wants to do outside when you enter and he takes his leave, there is problem. He may not pick your calls, and he may not reply your text messages. These are signs of a looming break-up.
10. Failure to defend you:
If he/she finds pleasure in speaking negative of you before the parents and friends instead of defending you, please be aware that he/she is not planning to spend his/her future with you.
In conclusion, you have to be aware of the warning signs of possible break-up, you can take a quick action to help you stop the break-up and avoid the pain that is associated with it.

Ways to save struggling relationship

It is not new that couples will argue all the time, could be serious issues or not so serious issues. The fact is it is a natural thing for both short term and long term relationships. There will always be disagreements based on difference in opinions, lifestyle, upbringing and so on, but there are times when it reaches a point where everything is starting to fall apart. This often leads to devastating breakups – but it doesn’t always have to end that way.

It may be easier said than done but it’s always important to have a little faith and ask these questions: Have you really done enough to save the relationship? Have you exhausted every possible option to say that it’s over? Is it really over? Is it possible to still push a little bit more? Is my partner even worth it? as in really?

So how can you save a failing and struggling relationship? Note that there are times you may feel “I just don’t love him/her anymore,” especially when life’s struggles begin to overwhelm you. Here are the tips to save your struggling relationship and keep the love alive. It may not apply to everyone. You may already be doing some of these things. But there is no harm in doing a little bit more with some kindness.

1. Admit that mistakes have been made

This is probably the hardest, yet the most important part of saving a relationship. Admitting that one or even both of you have failed to do your part is not easy. In moments like this one, people tend to become stubborn and quickly activate their defence mechanism in order to avoid getting all the blame. Try to work together and start from there.

2. Learn to negotiate and reach a compromise

Most of the reasons why people breakup can actually be remedied and solved through negotiation. Sure, this is not a business relationship but romantic relationships follow the same structure of what makes any good partnership last – regular communication and openness to compromise. Talk about what needs to be done, what you can do to accomplish them, and what you should stop doing.

3. Establish an “honesty zone” and talk about what’s bothering you

Again, communication is important. But honest communication is more important and can dramatically mend an almost-breaking bond between two people. Being honest with each other and letting them know how you truly feel can be liberating and at the same time, it will let you both know what went wrong and what you can do to fix it.

4. Remind yourself of the things that made you love your partner

Memories can bring the past back to life – and it can help you remember the things and emotions that seem to fade over time. Most of the time, couples become too busy and preoccupied with other things in life and forget the ones that matter. Remembering helps us realize that there was once a time when you were so happy and in love with that person – and the good thing is, you can bring that day back again.

5. Spend a quiet and relaxing time together

Sometimes, you only need to stay away from the noise of daily life and just be together in a quiet place. The chaos of the big city might be making your head spin, or the stress of your job could make you feel that everything is wrong in your life. Relax, reboot, and do it with the person you love.

6. Take a break from the daily routines of your relationship

What if you just need a break from everything? It’s a waste to end something so beautiful just because you were angry or tired from the routines of daily life. However, there are times when the demands of the relationship itself makes you feel exhausted. It’s normal but it doesn’t mean that it will be like that forever.

7. Don’t try to change people according to what you think is best

You don’t decide what your partner should be or how they should act. All you can do is to guide them so that they won’t do things that could hurt themselves. It’s one of the most ruining part of every relationship when one person tries to control the other and aside from breaking their confidence apart, you are actually teaching your significant other to be ashamed and hate their true self. It’s unfair, don’t you think?

8. Respect your differences

In relation to the section above, you have to respect your differences because you are two different people. No matter how perfectly matched you are in the zodiac sign department or if you think you’re soulmates, there will always be differences because you both have gone through a lot of things as well and experiences that shaped each of you as a person.

9. Stop hurting each other

Arguments are normal and we sometimes say and do things that could hurt the other. Sometimes, when couples fight, they do and say hurtful things just to let it all out. Words can be wounding and sometimes it can cause permanent emotional trauma. If you think you cannot control your emotions during an argument, it’s not a good idea to talk. Find a way to release the negativity that you feel but not towards your partner.

10. Don’t let them feel that you’ve given up

Have a little faith in every piece of what makes your relationship whole. Don’t give up on what you have too easily and learn to fight for it no matter how hurt or heartbroken you are. It’s okay to admit that you feel hopeless but never say that it’s over until it is really over. If your significant other feels that you’re not doing your part to fix it, then it could lead to a final and ultimate goodbye

11. Ask the questions that you’ve never asked before.

When your relationship is at stake, learn to ask the right and most important questions. What should you do to fix it? What went wrong? Whatever happened to your promises of loving each other no matter what? What else can you do to save what you have?

12. Open your heart and forgive more

This can be the hardest thing to do. Forgiving the person who have hurt you, the very person who promised to take care of you and to make you the happiest soul alive, can be the greatest sacrifice that you’ll ever offer to someone. However, this does not mean that you have to embrace martyrdom, to forget and forgive. It’s important to know your limits and your worth. Ask yourself these questions: is this person worth my forgiveness? Is this worth another chance?